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gypsyheritage
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| 15 Jun 2009 14:09 |
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The Limits my family will go to keep their secrets hidden still surprises me to this day...when I was about 17 I was shunned or kicked out and cut off from all contact from every person on my mother's side of the family who are gypsy. The reason for the shunning and cutting of all contact was the fact that I was researching our family history, and I guess they weren't so keen on that idea.There are the occasionally slip ups where the kids of the parents who have done the shunning have decided to take it upon themselves to seek me out, sometimes to see if I am as evil as their parents have made me out to be, other times to ask me why I am never at family gatherings...my response to every encounter is always the same I am not who you are looking for, anyway I received a letter today, saying if I am going to continue my research in the family lines overseas, I will be more than shunned, which to me doesn't make a whole lot of sense, I mean what more can they do to me I don't have any contact with them, and they don't have any contact with me, except for that occasional slip up, which I don't reveal who I am so they cant proof that I even talked to their kids.
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| 15 Jun 2009 14:39 |
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| Thats a great shame as we cant help who ,what or where we are born ? and family are important I do hope that in time things can improve for you :) |
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cam
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| 16 Jun 2009 02:09 |
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It's not such an unusual story, many folks hide their heritage. For many being a Gypsy has had 'consequences'. You only have to look at the world today to know the the prejudices and steriotypical rubbish can still make life very difficult for many people. |
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gypsyheritage
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| 16 Jun 2009 16:41 |
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Posted By xrosiex on 16 Jun 2009 02:57
i find it so hard to believe family can behave this way,i guess cus i have always been in a strong family unit that would do anything for each other and never dream of turning there backs on one of our own, also all my family are proud of the fact we are gypsies from the young to old, i think the gypsies that are not proud of who they are are the ones that have married out so are no long part of our culture so they feel they have to be a gorger to fit in to the life they are now living,its a sad thing,people should be like gypsyheritage proud of both her heritage and gorger side
It was shock to me at first, but my dad's side [who are not gypsy] were the ones that let me stay with them...and helped me through it
As for them marrying out, when my great grandmother emigrated she married a gypsy...they both denied their heritage and pretended they were Native American instead...even so much that they lived on a Indian Reservation and even tried to register with the Native American tribe
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cheri-m
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| 16 Jun 2009 19:56 |
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| What a shame and so silly as we only get one chance at live and should enjoy it not fall out over things which lets face it we cant control our birth? |
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kilby
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| 17 Jun 2009 17:53 |
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hi gang,
life is short but good frients make it an enjoyable journet eh ?
------kilby------ |
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kilby
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| 18 Jun 2009 18:29 |
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an always remember as ya skips through tis ol life that we leads Rosie that time does fly , an " the bird is on the wing "
so make the most of it an do what ya wants as long as it don hurt no body coz we all got our own lifes to leed an some ppl woult hold ya back or even drag ya down mate
roof tday an another one tomoz, good eh haha xxxx ----kilby----- |
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Victor
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| 19 Jun 2009 17:44 |
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Gypsy heritage, why are you so afraid of your heitage? unless you know something horoble about them, as I see it if you say that you have nothing to do with these people, so why worry,keep cool my dear, not all the Gypsies are the way you think they are, you think like most gadje, and must be hating your heritage, so why don't you say that you are some one else, and not from the heritage of a Gypsy,you know some thing you make me feel like those Gypsies that are in the Ghettos in Italy or some where in Europe, do you know what, I will give you an advice, stay away from any Gypsy, becaaaaaaause I caaaan see that hate us, but don't forget your half Gypsy wether you like it or not
I feel sorry for you Victor |
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cheri-m
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| 20 Jun 2009 16:39 |
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| Victor with respect I think that Gypsy is afraid of her parents reaction not her heritage? |
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LARRY SMITH
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| 22 Jun 2009 12:02 |
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MY DAD IS JOHN WHO HAD THE CANCA
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gypsyheritage
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| 06/15/2009 2:09 PM |
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The Limits my family will go to keep their secrets hidden still surprises me to this day...when I was about 17 I was shunned or kicked out and cut off from all contact from every person on my mother's side of the family who are gypsy. The reason for the shunning and cutting of all contact was the fact that I was researching our family history, and I guess they weren't so keen on that idea.There are the occasionally slip ups where the kids of the parents who have done the shunning have decided to take it upon themselves to seek me out, sometimes to see if I am as evil as their parents have made me out to be, other times to ask me why I am never at family gatherings...my response to every encounter is always the same I am not who you are looking for, anyway I received a letter today, saying if I am going to continue my research in the family lines overseas, I will be more than shunned, which to me doesn't make a whole lot of sense, I mean what more can they do to me I don't have any contact with them, and they don't have any contact with me, except for that occasional slip up, which I don't reveal who I am so they cant proof that I even talked to their kids.
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| 06/15/2009 2:39 PM |
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| Thats a great shame as we cant help who ,what or where we are born ? and family are important I do hope that in time things can improve for you :) |
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cam
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| 06/16/2009 2:09 AM |
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| It's not such an unusual story, many folks hide their heritage. For many being a Gypsy has had 'consequences'. You only have to look at the world today to know the the prejudices and steriotypical rubbish can still make life very difficult for many people. |
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gypsyheritage
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| 06/16/2009 4:41 PM |
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Posted By xrosiex on 16 Jun 2009 02:57
i find it so hard to believe family can behave this way,i guess cus i have always been in a strong family unit that would do anything for each other and never dream of turning there backs on one of our own, also all my family are proud of the fact we are gypsies from the young to old, i think the gypsies that are not proud of who they are are the ones that have married out so are no long part of our culture so they feel they have to be a gorger to fit in to the life they are now living,its a sad thing,people should be like gypsyheritage proud of both her heritage and gorger side
It was shock to me at first, but my dad's side [who are not gypsy] were the ones that let me stay with them...and helped me through it
As for them marrying out, when my great grandmother emigrated she married a gypsy...they both denied their heritage and pretended they were Native American instead...even so much that they lived on a Indian Reservation and even tried to register with the Native American tribe
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cheri-m
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| 06/16/2009 7:56 PM |
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| What a shame and so silly as we only get one chance at live and should enjoy it not fall out over things which lets face it we cant control our birth? |
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kilby
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| 06/17/2009 5:53 PM |
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hi gang,
life is short but good frients make it an enjoyable journet eh ?
------kilby------ |
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kilby
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| 06/18/2009 6:29 PM |
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an always remember as ya skips through tis ol life that we leads Rosie that time does fly , an " the bird is on the wing "
so make the most of it an do what ya wants as long as it don hurt no body coz we all got our own lifes to leed an some ppl woult hold ya back or even drag ya down mate
roof tday an another one tomoz, good eh haha xxxx ----kilby----- |
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Victor
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| 06/19/2009 5:44 PM |
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Gypsy heritage, why are you so afraid of your heitage? unless you know something horoble about them, as I see it if you say that you have nothing to do with these people, so why worry,keep cool my dear, not all the Gypsies are the way you think they are, you think like most gadje, and must be hating your heritage, so why don't you say that you are some one else, and not from the heritage of a Gypsy,you know some thing you make me feel like those Gypsies that are in the Ghettos in Italy or some where in Europe, do you know what, I will give you an advice, stay away from any Gypsy, becaaaaaaause I caaaan see that hate us, but don't forget your half Gypsy wether you like it or not
I feel sorry for you Victor |
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cheri-m
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| 06/20/2009 4:39 PM |
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| Victor with respect I think that Gypsy is afraid of her parents reaction not her heritage? |
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LARRY SMITH
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| 06/22/2009 12:02 PM |
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